That´s just one of the questions running through our minds at the moment. We´re about to embark on an adventure unlike anything we´ve done before. We´re gonna have to rely on each other for everything and nothing. Problems are due to arise on the road, and how do we make sure we don´t hate each other on the way?
No doubt, there will be countless opportunities for us to annoy each other. For instance, there´s my fear of the throttle and Kenneth´s impatience with slow traffic. During our last trip, I hesitated too much at an intersection and Kenneth had to stop behind me. There was nowhere for him to put his feet, so he and the bike both took a tumble down into the ditch.
We´ve been putting in a lot of effort to put our practical things in order before the great trip. My apartment was emptied and sold, and Kenneth´s is up next. We´re preparing our finances, necessary skills, storage, health and deciding on which tools to bring.
Skillset. Just as important as the practical issues that need to be sorted, are the communicational and social skills we´re gonna need. We´ll be just the two of us, on the road, in conditions that are bound to challenge us in some way. We have a goal of spending most nights in a tent or hammock - most importantly because we´re the happiest when we´re in nature. Finances are always going
to be a challenge though, and we simply can´t afford to stay in fancy hotels.
We´re gonna have to rely on each other, come what may. Any ideas on what to do when we feel like killing each other? 😄
Leaving comfort. Living together in a tight space is challenging enough as it is, and I suspect it won´t get easier now. We´re leaving the comfort of a heated apartment with perfectly clean drinking water from the tap, shower always ready, a warm dry bed to hide in. We might be dreamers, but we´re not completely oblivious about the challenges that lie ahead.
Speak. Communication will differ from couple to couple, and we´ve found some rules that work for us. The question "Is something wrong?" isn´t heard between us. If something´s wrong, it is said. If nothing is said, nothing is wrong. That means that no grudges can be held. And there´s no reason for anybody to feel like something is wrong. Also: If there are expectations, they are to be made clear. If no expectations are voiced, there´s no point in being disappointed either.
Observation vs interpretation. We´re also very aware of how our minds can play tricks on us. We noticed so many instances were we reacted to our own interpretation of the situation, instead of reacting to the situation itself. Misunderstandings happen when one person believes they know the reasoning behind the actions of the other. Have you ever noticed how your actions can be given meaning that was never intended? An example I´ve seen and heard often is people giving meaning to other people´s choice in clothing. "She´s wearing a yellow jacket, that must mean she´s very happy and wants to surround herself with color". Isn´t it absurd? We have no way of knowing if that is the case. That color could be the only one heavily discounted, thus the only one she could afford. She may not even like the color, she may have just accepted it because she needed a warm jacket. The same can happen between two people who are close, if they stop being curious about each other´s thoughts and feelings.
That´s just one of the questions running through our minds at the moment. We´re about to embark on an adventure, unlike anything we´ve done before. We´re gonna have to rely on each other for everything and nothing. Problems are due to arise on the road, and how do we make sure we don´t hate each other on the way?